Some days feel like sh*#

Those are the days that define your future.

I watched the Netflix documentary about Lewis Capaldi yesterday.

If the name means nothing to you, that’s the singer/writer of Someone You Loved.

The movie told the story of his difficulties trying to write another hit.

I’ve had that feeling and know you’ve had it too. The feeling that you’re just not good enough (anymore).

It doesn’t have to come after a worldwide hit.

For me, today, it came after one unsubscriber.

But sometimes, it’s because there are no readers on Medium.

Or because of a bad review on Fiverr.

And sometimes, it’s simply because I woke up.

It’s that shitty feeling of being thoroughly confused about what you’re doing, unsure of your abilities, and properly annoyed about others’ successes.

When you work for someone else, you power through those days because you have to.

But when you’re a one-person business, it’s easy to give up.

I’ve spent many shit days binging on House Hunters and having ice cream and tears for lunch.

Not anymore.

It recently dawned on me that positive emotions have failed me one too many times for me to keep counting on them.

The thing is, everybody has shit days. Everybody has imposter syndrome. From me to Lewis Capaldi, to freakin Tony Robbins and beyond. Whoever you look up to they have shit days for sure.

But!

They handle shit days in different ways. They don’t wait for positive emotions to come back. They work through the storm.

How you handle shit days is literally your predictor for success. It’s a quantity thing: amateurs will miss those hours, and you will work. More hours = more experience = higher chances of achieving your goals (faster).

So today, when I woke up to an unsubscriber (which, of course, any marketer would tell you is the most natural thing), even though I felt like the stupidest, most hopeless person in the world, I was like, hey, I can use that.

This will be a shitty day when I’ll show up anyway.

And it’s like working out: the more shitty days you have when you show up, the less power those feelings have over you.

Pretty cool, right?

PS. If you need a break, of course, you should take a break. But don’t waste a good break on feeling sorry for yourself.

Sending you the energy and willpower to overcome any shitty feelings,

Maya